Trust and Risk
Sunday, April 22, 2012 | 12:25 amAt a high ropes course training I attended recently the wonderful lead, Sam, said, “if you’re not taking risks, you’re not trusting.”
I have been thinking about this and it has been a useful/interesting metric for me to evaluate circumstances in my life regarding trust, both having a strong sense of it and questioning it. Am I taking risks in the places I have trust? Why or why not? What defines a risk for me? Is my trust/risk circuit malfunctioning anywhere – do I risk with little evidence of trust? Is there a way for me to position myself so I can build trust and take risks more? It’s exciting to think, ah! Now I have an risk indicator light that I can notice when I am leveling up trust. On the other hand, when I feel more trust, I can step up to new challenges more confidently. However, it seems like risk taking behavior is easier to notice and figure out that the emotion of trust! Trust is complicated, it’s about prediction.
Knowing when to trust is a skill, too. So how? Experience: starting with little risks, building up to larger ones. We can start to trust in little ways all the time, if we make the increments fit the circumstances.
What are y o u r thoughts about the quote at the top of the post?
Q-out.
—QarlyQ | no comments
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Gr+8+(4-r)+L
Sunday, April 15, 2012 | 11:19 pmDear World,
Thanks for existing.
Love,
-Q
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a limmerick for finishing school.
Wednesday, April 11, 2012 | 11:10 pmA girl who is jazzed for creation
Stands waiting around at the station,
Her classes almost done,
She still can have fun,
Growing and learning pre-graduation.
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The wall that no longer is.
Sunday, April 1, 2012 | 9:29 am
A little update from Q-town:
Here is a snapshot taken from the vantage point of my bed. As you may have noticed, there is no longer a complete wall separating Jason and my rooms. (But, look how much bigger my room is now!) My Spring break ends tonight and I head back to school tomorrow. I hope the wall can be finished somehow. Jason is presenting a study poster at a cog sci conference in Chicago, which is bad ass. It means he and I aren’t up in each other’s space, but it also means he’s not around to help.
This has been one of the busiest Spring breaks I’ve had, maybe of all time. I’m ready for a break! Taking a big picture view, in 6 weeks I’ll graduate. In the meantime, I’ll try to eat well and get the appropriate amount of rest. I seem to often live my life like an endurance marathon…
Speaking of which, hopefully this afternoon I will be able to make some progress on sheetrocking the new wall and can start reorganizing my room.
There are a lot of cool things brewing. I’m looking forward to starting to work a job and make progress using all the great things I’ve learned during my time at UCB. I am changed and also the same… now with more tools!
Peace ought.
—QarlyQ | 1 comment
(posted in Uncategorized | tagged building, busy, home, school)
migration
Friday, February 3, 2012 | 1:00 amGoing through all of cogfoot (my macbook for the past 4 years) to see what’s there and organize it. I must wrap my head around my digital junk. Some of it is treasure. Incredible treasures. So much of my own history! So much creative potential.
Like most of the other things in my life, my computer is changing too. cogfoot was a gift. The gift is this particular machine, yes, but also it is the gift of technology and having the tools that serve me well. Without cogfoot I would not be able to get my next laptop. The person who gifted me with cogfoot helped teach me to look beyond the particular thing and look to the way it helps you – the function is the key. Maybe that’s just what I tell myself to not get dragged down by nostalgia and grief. It’s a little sad to see cogfoot go. Maybe a lot. But I’m also learning that sometimes you have to let go to move ahead into the future.
Hello, Kaleidoscope.
I am grateful.
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beep
Wednesday, September 21, 2011 | 9:04 pma watch chime every hour.
a reminder to live the life of my own choosing.
Also, to GET BACK TO WORK!
(or playing or eating or sleeping or whatever the next thing is.)
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Sleep
Saturday, September 17, 2011 | 1:57 amWent to a psychology of sleep class at UCB. It was really good.
Will go again.
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An image for patience.
Tuesday, September 13, 2011 | 9:36 pm
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Perspective
Sunday, September 11, 2011 | 11:03 amI have gained a bit of perspective on my life from these realizations:
I have lived in my current home longer than any other since I was 12 (almost 5 years at Cakebread!)
I have been in school longer than ever before.
My longest relationship is over and has been over for just under a year.
!~~!~~!~~!
Before 2007 I was a very transient gal. I lived in all sorts of places and moved around within them. I think the time spent moving between mom’s house and dad’s house informed a pattern of movement and comfort in not having a completely solid home base.
Now that I’ve been living in the same place for awhile, I notice that my stuff has accumulated a lot. I’m a person that gets attached to objects. I think not moving has exacerbated this tendency of mine.
I feel also that with each move that I made I was able to transcend my previous self and transform into more of myself. Being in a new place with new people with a new role offers an incredible opportunity to present and manifest new parts of myself!
Those moves coincided with my being a young adult, so of course a lot of personal transformation and growth was happening in general. I think the travel contributed to that growth and offered new avenues of interaction.
As my life has continued onward, I have accumulated not just stuff, but thoughts, experiences, hopes, dreams, fears, etc, etc.. So much to hold in one person! My challenge now is to manage all that, to let it sink in and to just be with it, to be it. To carry on with lightness and dedication to what I value.
Question!
**How have you continued to transform as your life progresses?
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Gratitude for open communications
Sunday, September 11, 2011 | 10:50 amI am really glad that I was able to find a friend on FBchat. Finding the right mode of communication can make quite a difference.
I’ve been challenged by love the past year (and indeed before that too, but especially in recent memory).
I long to reach out and connect romantically. Yet, at this point in my life, it seems I find greater strength (confidence, peace, motivation, etc.) when I’m on my own. Ideally, romance and personal strength will match up one day.
At certain times I feel a strong pull from the external world to press on, at other times, my internal world drives me forward. The interplay between love and romance as an external point of reference and motivator and my own internal personal drive to manifest my dreams has been a challenge to recognize and balance.
I am grateful to be coming to understand these aspects of myself and my relationship with other people and the world better.
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